“83 percent of American adults own some kind of cell phone and…a lot of people find it difficult to switch off once they’re at home.”
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I’m on a mini-sabbatical and will be re-sharing some of my fave OTR articles and re-introducing you to some favorite OTR guest authors, like Helene Segura. She has advice for parents on how they can help their children tackle educational challenges.
It’s a tough job for parents to walk that line between being a non-participant in their child’s education and being overzealous. The latter calls teachers at all hours of the day and night to ask why their child only made an eighty-nine on a homework assignment that they stayed up all night completing for their child.
The former waits until the last week of school to ask what makeup work can be done so their kid can pass – ignoring the twice monthly requests on progress reports and report cards to call to discuss their child’s grades.
You reside somewhere in the middle. You were as supportive as possible, but tried not to pry too much. You kept up with communications from the school and attended all meetings and events in which your child was involved. But when the first semester report card arrived, you were disappointed with and extremely concerned about the results. Either there were one or more failing grades, or the averages had nose-dived by five or more points.
There are a variety of factors that could have caused the changes, many of which you’ve probably mulled over while scratching your head:
1. Does my child have a learning disability that I never before noticed?
2. Are the teachers being unfair?
3. Is my child not telling me everything that’s happening in class?
4. Is my child experiencing some type of emotional or behavioral struggle?
5. Has my child started “hanging out” with the wrong crowd?
One question that is often not asked, however, is “Has my child reached a point where his/her organizational skills no longer meet the challenges s/he faces?”
As adults, we often heap on more commitments and responsibilities and sometimes push ourselves to the breaking point. We’ve managed to develop coping skills because we’ve been doing this for decades. Kids lack the lifelong experience that we have, and we sometimes forget that they need to regroup and recharge more often than we do.
Organizationally, there are many avenues to explore, but the challenges often trace back to two core issues: lack of time management and lack of structure.
To begin addressing these challenges, take a look at:
1. Your child’s extra curricular schedule.
By the time you factor in practice time, commute time, chores and eating, how much time is left for studying and fun? As adults, we tend to deny ourselves of the fun; it’s crucial that kids do not. I typically find with my clients that homework is supposed to be done on the go – in between practices or in the car. Those are not environments that are conducive to uninterrupted study periods. I encourage those clients to set up a specific amount of time at home each night so that their kids can focus. Sometimes that means shelving one of their activities.
2. Your child’s study area.
Do your children have a specific area where they can do their homework? Is there a desk or table where they can write? Are there supplies located there so that your kiddos don’t have to hunt all over the house for what they need? Having a designated spot allows your children to focus on the task of studying instead of killing time trying to find a place to get settled. When it comes to studying, they shouldn’t be nomadic; they need a home base.
3. Your child’s routines.
Even the most creative, right-brained children thrive on routine. Tasks don’t necessarily need to be completed at the exact same time each day, but they should be completed. If necessary, have a task check list in the kitchen, in their bedroom, and/or on the front door to help them remember what needs to be done each day. Whether diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, or nothing at all, my clients who struggle the most with keeping up rely on checklists in multiple places, including their smartphone.
If the report card was not what was expected, it’s time for a sit-down with your child. Depending on the age, this might be while cuddling during Mommy and Me time or in between gaming sessions of Call of Duty. The important thing is to open up the lines of communication.
Discuss the three points above. If it doesn’t solve your child’s issues, it will at least act as a springboard into what is causing their struggles.
About the Author
LivingOrder San Antonio CEO, Helene Segura, is a Certified Professional Organizer® and Certified Productive Environment Specialist™. A former award-winning teacher turned organizing and productivity consultant, Segura’s book, Less Stress for Teachers: More Time & An Organized Classroom, addresses the thinking behind how to overcome “the overwhelm” that teachers feel on a daily basis. It’s a thinking pathway that helps teachers bust through the emotional, psychological and organizational walls that prevent them from utilizing planners and other tools.
Connect With Helene: Less Stress For Teachers | Twitter | Facebook | LinkedIn | Google+
I’m on a mini-sabbatical, but before I left, I wrote a guest article for OTR friend and hoarding expert, Geralin Thomas. Here’s a snippet from my guest post…check out my top five baby proofing tips and feel free to share your own.
Everyone wants the best for their children, and as a new parent, your protective instincts will likely kick in well before you meet your new baby. That means getting your home up to snuff for when your little person starts living in what used to be an adult only environment.
There’s a lot to consider like when to baby proof and what exactly you should do. One thing you must do before baby gets home is ensure that the crib is securely put together. A safe and secure sleeping environment is essential.
And, while those bumpers are super cute, they can be a hazard (i.e., cause suffocation), so resist the temptation to use them.
Top Five Baby Proofing Tips
Once it’s time to baby proof, here are five things to consider:
#2 Use magnetic locks for lower cabinets and drawers.
#5 Keep medications high out of reach. Go one step further by putting them in a locked box.
We took the day off today in honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. day, a holiday that some observe here in the US. Hope your day has been productive AND relaxing. =)
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.” ~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
“Orthorexia, though not an official mental disorder, is what some people call an unhealthy obsession with eating healthy food. It’s very similar to an obsessive-compulsive disorder only the focus is really food.”
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So many people want to get organized for the New Year and January is Get Organized Month. …but if you are on a budget or don’t otherwise have access to hire a professional organizer, I wanted to share with you a great way for you to get on the organizing train at a reduced cost.
Many of you know that I’m one of the featured experts on The Clutter Diet (TCD) and I’m happy to announce a special deal being offered in January. When you use the coupon code“2012win,” you will receive 25% off an Annual membership! This discount is the lowest possible price TCD offers.
Annual memberships are usually $143.40, but with this coupon code your price is 25% off, just $107. This offer expires, Monday, January 16th at midnight (CDT). In other words, it costs you only $8.92/month to have unlimited access to organizing experts for personal consultations online!
I’m taking a sabbatical and have lined up a few posts ahead of time. I’ll also be re-sharing some of my fave OTR articles and re-introducing you to some favorite OTR guest authors, like Ellen Delap. Today, she has advice on how to help your children keep their rooms clutter free.
Kids rooms get stuffed to the brim after the holidays! Helping them learn organizing strategies as well as modeling decluttering is one of our most important jobs as a parent. Just like every new skill, it takes patience and practice to create good systems and routines.
• Set a time that will work well for you and your child to organize. You will be able to have them work with you between 30 and 60 minutes, so you really want to hit the hard stuff first. Before you start, set your goals together to be sure you are communicating. Work toward a goal of completion and not perfection in this endeavor. Going into this work with a team attitude makes all the difference as well. If your child is done, but the room is not, continue on but ask about the items you declutter before you donate. You are teaching respect for each other and taking care of your property, too!
• Think through the areas that are used in your child’s room, including technology, attire, reading and any other zones. Mapping this out ahead of time helps you both set boundaries for what will fit in this space. Often we have too much in one space to make it work.
• You and your child will approach decluttering with different perspectives. Give your child permission to declutter without guilt or second thoughts. Often your child is ready to let go of an item and you are not. Be sure that you are open to their opinions, regardless of the cost or use of the item.
If your child is reluctant to declutter, be sure to help them by gathering together the items, then asking how many they might need of a single item or if they will keep only a treasured number. By helping them approach decluttering in a positive way, you are encouraging a lifelong process.
• Keeping toys or clothes for your next child? Use 66 quart bins, labeled with size and season for clothes. You can store these on the upper shelves in your child’s closet. Toys can also be stored this way. Be sure to be discerning and keep only the best of these.
• Kids need a keepsake box, too. The size of the box helps them limit their keepsakes to what is most precious. This can also be stored under a bed or at the top of the closet. This strategy also helps them honor what is precious.
• Choose products that encourage independent maintenance of their space. Think of their ability to access and spaces they can return items to so that they can easily keep their room orderly. Place items that are frequently used in open bins for just dropping in. Color and labels can make organizing fun and attractive too. Be sure to label each spot so that everyone knows where items belong.
• Establishing routines are an important final step. Talk through the maintenance with your child. Will they be picking up a little every night? It is much easier this way! Will they be preparing for the next day each evening as well, taking out their clothes, filling their back pack and getting ready? Easy to follow routines can be reinforced with a chore chart and praise to insure completion.
• Keep a schedule for decluttering each season. Whether it is a holiday or birthday coming up, frequent decluttering is the most reliable way to keep order in your home. Calendar it and you will be sure to keep organization a priority for you and your child.
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About the Author
Certified Professional Organizer ® and Family Manager Coach, Ellen Delap, is the owner of Professional-Organizer.com. Since 2000, she has worked one-on-one with her clients in their home and offices, streamlining their environments, creating effective strategies for an organized lifestyle, and helping them to prioritize organization in their daily routines.
She holds ADD and Chronic Disorganization certificates and specializes in working with ADD and ADHD adults and students. Ellen has been featured at The Woodlands (Texas) Home and Garden Show, on ABC13 Houston, in the Houston Chronicle, and is an Expert on The Clutter Diet, an online organizing resource.
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I’m taking a sabbatical and have lined up a few posts ahead of time. I’ll also be re-sharing some of my fave OTR articles, like this one that offers great DIY organizing tips. Very helpful especially since January is Get Organized Month. Click on the link at the end to see all nine tips.
Allison Spitzer Carter of The Professional Organizer [Metro Atlanta]
“Get phone coaching or internet/webcam coaching with a professional organizer which can cost less, and will provide an accountability factor – someone to be accountable to. This will get you to make an appointment to organize. Making time to get organized is as important as getting the know-how.”
“The hard part for many people is deciding what to do with everything. Set boundaries to help you make decisions faster. Boundaries can be with your time, papers, and stuff. Set a timer and work until it goes off. Every bit of progress helps.”
Grace Brooke Banovich of Your Efficiency Specialist [Sonoma County, CA]
“One can also join a local support group. The groups can be at no-cost or fairly inexpensive. The support from others and knowing you are accountable to the other members can be great motivators. One could also coordinate a ‘sorting’ party. This would be similar to a ‘painting’ party. Friends could gather for drinks and munchies while sharing stories and sorting papers, toys, tupperware, and clothes. Split the duties up and have some fun!”
“Do you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn’t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn’t most of them turn out all right after all?” ~Dale Carnegie
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