I’m taking a bit of a break from writing and will be re-sharing some of my favorite OTR articles, like this one, “You Really CAN Have it All,” by Dr. Marla Deibler. Have you mastered the art of having it all? Do tell!
I’ve always been ambitious. From the time I was a little girl, I imagined myself with the devoted husband, 2.5 precious children, white picket fence, and rewarding career. It seemed plausible, even realistic.
These days, I am often asked, “how do you do it?” Patients often comment on how “calm” and in control I seem. While it’s true that I feel incredibly fortunate in my life, when I’m asked this, I have to laugh, as “having it all” can be downright ridiculous at times. Let me tell you a little bit about myself and the reality of my day-to-day.
I am a wife and a mother. I am also a doctor, a clinical psychologist. I specialize in treating trichotillomania, anxiety, OCD, and compulsive hoarding. With two young children at home in 2009, I left the comfort of my employer to set up a part-time private practice in order to have some schedule flexibility; I wanted to spend more time at home with my children, have a more balanced home-work life.
All was going so well with two children and a business; why not have a third child? Well, this child’s birth was very different for me. Now, I was a business owner from which I could not take family medical leave. Less than one hour after my cesarean section, I found myself checking my work voicemail and calling a patient who was waiting at my office for a therapist who was not scheduled to come in that day. I could not even feel my feet yet and I was making a professional call from my hospital bed!
And so this new balancing act began. From calling employees while breastfeeding to submitting payroll through my iPhone (thank goodness for free hospital WiFi), I had it all.